JLTV is finally making it to New England on Comcast! It was so exciting for IOOH to be part of the process, (and to actually learn a little about how the cable business works). Special thanks to Phil Blazer, John Sadler, Brad Pomerance, and everyone at JLTV for their incredible vision and hard work in making a 24/7 Jewish network in New England possible!
In addition to recent expansions into Houston and Southern Florida, Comcast will now be carrying JLTV in the Greater Boston area. Beginning December 20 you will be able to watch all your favorite JLTV programs on Channel 196. This brings JLTV's reach to 30 Million homes and InOverOurHeads Productions is proud to be a part of it!
Look for new episodes of InOverOurHeads to be coming soon.
Malkah and Avrom ran into each other at the Brookline Chai Center Gala Benefit. Mayshe and Shifra throw the best parties! Avrom produces Feed Me Bubbe, also on JLTV. Check out their website and Facebook page.
InOverOurHeads comes to life on JLTV Tuesday nights at 8pm, 10pm, and midnight! Watch the live feed and chat online at www.jltv.tv.
The premier episode called Living Waters features Valerie's first visit to a mikveh, and this week we meet Mindy, a mom who lives in a large religious community and Loves to Dance. It's amazing stuff!
JLTV broadcasts nationwide on DirecTV channel 366, on TimeWarner channel 120 in the New York metropolitan area and channel 177 in LA, and online at www.jltv.tv. JLTV currently reaches 26 million homes and is anticipated to expand to 40 million homes by year end!
In response, I think that the problem doesn't lie in the message and values the parents are trying to transmit, but in the delivery. I know that in my case, my parents sometimes just lost sight of what was most important- their daughter as her own special person, rather than their daughter whom they had to mold to be a certain way- that they thought they would have been lucky to be at my age- otherwise she was a failure, and unworthy of love and approval. Granted I would never be where I am today had they not done exactly what they did- for which I am grateful, and I am not saying that my parents intentionally made me hate religion for a while, but inadvertently this is what that attitude does to a child.
The meaning is there for me now, but I found it on my own and not because my parents 'transmitted' it to me. Of course they played their own role, but I think everyone ultimately comes to find true meaning in it on their own. I don't think that's something that anyone can really transmit directly because it's a result of so many variables, an important one being each child feeling valued as an individual with their own special neshama and unique purpose and plan.
Whether or not my children decide to follow in my footsteps religiously, I will be glad to know that I tried to transmit values and traditions to them not because I think that they are unequivocally the right ones for them, but out of love that I want to share things that were meaningful to me with them, and hope they connect on whatever level they do, in their own time in their own way. What more can we expect?
R' Carlebach said it well:
"Why do we lose our children [from Judaism]? If you say something to your children, and it doesn’t come from the deepest depths of your heart, then they don’t want to hear. And they are one hundred percent right- I don’t want to hear it either! I bless you and me and all of our children, that we will find people who will teach us with all of their hearts, so that we will feel close to it, and feel at home with it."
I find it fascinating --and somewhat troubling-- that we as parents seem to be having so much difficulty transmitting authentic Jewish values to you, our children, for the next generation. I am in my mid-50's, and made a conscientious decision in my teens to become observant because the more I learned the more I understood and appreciated. (I was raised Conservative and attended public school.) Those in our generation who raised our children to be "frum from birth", possibly unlike how we were raised, are now seeing some of it backfire, as even if you guys go through the motions, you are saying that the meaning isn't there for you. WE thought for ourselves to reach this place -- YOU have to be allowed to think for yourselves, too. But guess what? When you reach our age, your children will want to be thinking for themselves, too, and they may totally go against whatever values you thought you had! Perhaps they will follow their grandparents, perhaps not. Are you even capable of seeing this picture from a longer range?
I truly believe: You can have it all, just not all at the same time! So, wherever you find yourself emotionally, spiritually, physically, sociologically, economically, etc., know that it may only be for a short while and it does not always have to be this way. Good luck in your life journey!